It is an hilarious dialogue about all of those inappropriate things people do in and around dying people.

It is a superb set of directions for providing a dignified manner of dying while maintaining the sanity of the caregiver. This is one of those books that can (and should) be read on several levels. They will appreciate it much more than a banana bread or casserole.Lois Kelly has done the impossible: she has written her way through one of the most crucial periods in each of our lives - the modus exodus - and her writings are not only excellent in a technical sense, but they are also full of compassion - for both the person exiting life and the one left to tend to that ext and beyond. PS - Please consider passing the book along to someone who has entered the caregiver journey. I hope that some of the 50 lessons in this book help you navigate the adventure of dying, and find small joys and new sources of love in those difficult days. 'Thank you for helping us remember my husband's final days not with agony and heart break but as his caregiver, the 'most courageous, inspiring and rewarding job I never wanted.'' 'But when Kelly read 'Be the Noodle' and told me about it, it allowed me to share with her the most agonizing, poignant, intimate, and life-changing experience of our lives. My husband and I did not want those memories to be our children's last memories of their father. Then her mother called and said, 'Come home.'Ī few months later Kelli's mother wrote to me, 'I had no intention of sharing with Kelli or her brother the last 15 days when the dying had begun. Kelli read 'Be the Noodle' and sent it to her mother. Kelli was at school miles away from home, sick with worry about her terminally ill father. My niece gave 'Be the Noodle' to her college friend Kelli whose father was dying.

One of my favorite stories came from a family in Alabama. I am also grateful that people have been kind enough to tell me how the book affected their lives. I am so humbled and joyful knowing that this little book has done just that for many. To make a sad part of life, a treasured part of life. I wrote this book to share my experiences helping my mother die in hopes that more people might find the courage, love and sick humor to be fully present with the person they love during the end of life.

Be the Noddle by Lois Kelly